Yoga does not change the way we see things, it transforms the person who sees – BKS Iyengar, light on life
So here we are again, another Christmas done and a New Year has begun.
2015 flew by, I say the same each year, and I’m starting to think it’s true, the older you get the faster time flies. The most likely cause of this I guess is that we are all busy, whether it be work, social life, running a business, taking care of a family, the list goes on and on.
The end of last year was crazy for me, well the whole of last year was crazy. On a work level I took my yoga business full time, I started a new little side line role with Ipop and on top of all that my social calendar was off the scale. I had two Weddings both I was Bridesmaid for and one being in Cyprus, Birthday celebrations in Liverpool and New York, all were amazing but they happened so close together my feet literally didn’t touch the ground.
So what’s my point, well, I learnt something which I didn’t think a control freak like myself would ever be able to do. Enjoy something for what it really is??? What do I mean by this? Well, I am not on my own when it comes to planning, organising, making sure me, my friends and family have the best time ever, especially if I have been involved in making it happen. Well I had no involvement what’s so ever in planning the events above and they happened so close together I didn’t have any time to create any expectations which felt so liberating. Ironically being busy was the best thing that could have happened to me really, I rocked up to each event with an open mind and an open heart ready for what ever they threw at me.
Everything I experienced from each of them was like seeing it for the first time rather than seeing something that I thought it was going to be.
This lesson made me think about Christmas and New Year (the ones we’ve just had not the next ones).. Expectations run really high and so does the pressure that comes with them. It is a bitter sweet time of year, for some people it can be really tough. Christmas time can make the most rational of people feel over whelmed. It is a time for family and friends however, it can be a really sad reminder of the people who won’t be there, whether it be through their passing or their location. Parents work tirelessly to provide their children with everything they have asked for, however, for some parents this isn’t possible and for some children, Christmas may be non existent.
What I have learnt in 2015 is that it is important not to over-think things, let them happen naturally and enjoy them for what they are. Spend some time being kind not only to each other but more importantly to yourself. This is easier said than done but trust it is a worth while practise.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, under pressure, take 5 minutes out and take a breath, remind yourself of the things that really matter, You will be surprised, these are normally the things that come without a price tag.
Give your kids a hug and tell them that you love them, if you haven’t spoken to a family member or friend drop them a line, if you have lost someone you love, light a candle and send your love. Let’s be thankful for what we have and not worry about what we think we need or want.
Remember life is for living, live yours to the fullest, tell pressure and expectations that they’re not invited this year and if they do manage to gate crash, take a breath, slow down and remember what’s really important, enjoy each day and moment for what it is.
I say this mantra at the end of each of my classes, it was taught to me by the wonderful Sarah Powers, replace the you with ‘I’ when you take your 5 minutes, and if you want to say it for someone else, then you say it as follows;
May you be free of pain and suffering
May you be as happy as you are
May you be at peace with what ever comes your way
Yoga allows you to re-discover a sense of wholeness in your life, where you do not feel like you are constantly trying to fit broken pieces together – BKS Iyengar, light on life